Book Notes: Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes...by Turansky and Miller (Part Two)

The past few days we have been taking this book for a test run. Literally. Isn't it amazing how the moment you implement new ideas and disciplines, the kids notch up their stress and strife?

 

This is the lovely and heart warming note brother woke up to yesterday. 

Brother woke to the above note yesterday. Sister and I were out feeding the animals, and I began to hear crying from the porch. Welcome to a wonderful day! So much for respecting me and honouring brother, as I had specifically told sister I would tell brother about the demise of his sea monkeys. Ugh. The day got better and better. After a school open house, and a melt down at the park, they came home and spent two hours in their rooms. Thankfully, by evening things had smoothed out. If you try these ideas, be prepared for kick back. Count on it! Further, plan on working on your own attitude a whole lot. Because you will be tested more than the kids!

Okay, here we go...

Part Two Notes

There is a difference between respect and honour. Respect is based on the concept of phobos. Phobos is related to the word phobia and is based on fear, i.e., we respect someone because of what they can do to us. A police officer would be an example of someone we respect because of the consequences he/she can impose on us if we disobey the law. However, honour is based on the Greek word timae, which is related to the concept and idea of worth or value. We honour someone when we recognize their inherent worth or value.

I love this statement: The real measurement of the growth of someone is the growth rate around their heart, not their height.

When you see dishonour as a parent we should:

-Identify the wrong behaviour in the child.
-Identify the heart issue (anger, frustration, jealousy, etc....) at work.
-Identify with the child what a positive heart attitude should look like.
-Identify the right action/behaviour you require of the child. 
-Follow through.

I love to tell the kids: Let's think about, what it is, we think about. If only that were easy to do! But, it is a beginning to understanding our actions, and therefore changing them when necessary. 

Dinner time explorations:

Where should honour be given? Look up Romans 13:7
What does the fear or reverence of God look like? Look up 1 Peter 2:17
What does honour of God look like? Look up Revelations 4:11

If you want children to fly straight, teach them obedience.
If you want to teach them to fly high, teach them honour.

Love, love, love that!