Book Notes: Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes by Turansky and Miller

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Kim's Notes Part 1

I have gleaned so much from Say Goodbye..., I thought I would go ahead and post my notes online. That said, I will not share all my notes, as I feel that would be unfair to the authors. Many of my notes are direct quotes from the book, I've italicized those.

Showing someone honour is a gift.

I loved their idea of gift wrapping bags of dirt and candy bars  (separately) and then giving them out at the dinner table. They suggest using these gifts as a launch pad to discuss honour. I want to try this with our kids, using these items to talk about the kind of presents they like to give and receive. It's a great lesson in looking at what we give others with our attitudes, actions, and conversation. Sweetness or dirt?

Look up Mark 6:1-6, what does this verse say about honour?

Also, James 2:1-6, What does this verse say about a form of honour that is wrong?

Reminder to self: Just teach it. Don't expound on it toooooo much!

Tolerance + Patience = Honour and it adds a bit of grace to all our interactions.

Children do not grow out of bad habits, they grow into them. Counteracting bad habits is crucial. (Wow, ain't that the truth!)

Honour is the oil in the machine of family life. Honour allows for less friction and more grace in our daily workings and interactions.

Look up: Romans 12:10

Idea: Put butcher paper on the dining room table and write things we are grateful for before supper. Grace our table with gratitude. 

We also talked about our prayer times with the Lord. On nights we don't know what to thank God for (maybe we are just too tired and spent), we could simply begin our prayer time by praising God for those things we so often take for granted. I challenged the kids to thank the Lord for at least eight or ten things, their ages, as they lay in bed. When they meet that number, I encouraged them to see how many more things they could thank the Lord for before they fall asleep.

 

I love how the concept of honour (at least to me) is connected with gratefulness. Honouring others must begin with gratitude for others. Let's be intent on growing gratitude in our hearts, for it will never grow on its own. You and I must choose to plant the seed of gratitude in our soul soil if we want it in our garden. The fruit? Grace and gratefulness live in our lives. We grow in peace, and I dare say contentment. 

Okay, enough for one day. I'm getting too wordy. It's my intention to keep the blog short and sweet! Blessings to you on your parenting journey this day. Remember, it is a journey, not a destination. The destination is wholly and soully God's work :-)

 ~Kim

To be continued in a day or two....

Canning Season

The hammock hangs empty, this time of year.

Canning season is in full gear and I keep telling myself, "Simplify people, simplify!" What does that look like? I left the skins on my peaches this year. It will be alright. Really, it will. The last few years, I gave away many of our tomatoes and apples - the crop to much for me to handle. But, this year, we are both sharing and shelving, and very grateful for what the Lord bestows.

We've been delighted to find new crops to harvest, for a few trees are finally mature enough to bear. Some of these trees, we didn't plant and didn't know what they were, and it's been fun to walk through the garden and knock my head on something new.

  The birds usually get these first.

We will see who wins this year.

My vote is with the birds.

The bees adore sunflowers. 

Let's all plant some. 

Maybe it will prevent bee colony collapse.

In our third year here, I look around me and think of Isaiah 37: 30

 “This year you will eat what grows by itself,
    and the second year what springs from that.
But in the third year sow and reap,
    plant vineyards and eat their fruit.

I am grateful for the fruit the Lord bestows. It is He alone, that makes the bud to bear. I am grateful that our enemy who rages against us, who threatens our peace and joy, is destroyed at the Cross. The love of God will have the final word, when all the world is a rage. His words will bear fruit: hope and deliverance. Isaiah 37

Feeling spent? 

Remember, it is the seed that falls to the ground that bears fruit.

"...unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, 

it remains only a single seed. 

But if it dies, it produces many seeds."

  John 12:24

Many times, spiritual fruit comes from events and circumstances we would never want or ask for. But, if we will bear it, we will bear His love into the world. Through His love, we can share grace with those experiencing leaner days, and trust He will provide for our needs.  

 

Mary's Peak Hike

Great things are done when men and mountains meet. 

These are not done by jostling in the street. 

~ Streams in the Desert August 25th

A foggy morning, gave way, to the warmth of the sun.

We met a Ranger who shared his love of rocks with us.

Great attitudes graced the trail for our 5 mile hike  (mostly :-)

I found muscles, I haven't used in awhile.

We ate gelato.

We watched Tom and Jerry.
I made applesauce.
We read a little.

We called it a day.  

Learning is for Life, and Life is for Learning

How time flies...

For many, it's once again time to sit at a desk. It's time to share with others and be taught by another. Approaching another school year, we do so humbly. We lean into His grace one day at a time. As well as ask for grace, from teachers and principles, as we pull for activities outside the classroom, and work hard inside the classroom. We are excited about new friends, new knowledge, and new memories. We take each day as it comes, just as we take each year as it comes. 

As we approach school once again, we are pondering these articles as a family during dinner time. 

Jewish Literacy at PBS

Thought provoking, and an example for us all. Speaks to the power of early childhood education.

23 Signs You Might Be an Introvert 

Remembering, group settings can be tougher for some than others.

The Common Core from the NY Times by Charles M Blow

...Great teachers help to activate a small thing that breeds great minds: thirst.

Refugees in our Classrooms (at CNN)

How can we help those in our classrooms who are hard at work learning a new way of life?

Dear Jesus,

May we walk humbly into a new season, asking you to go with us and continually relying on your strength. May we bring peace into our classrooms and a helping hand. May we apply ourselves with diligence to the new knowledge you place before us, and may we use that knowledge to live your compassion and grace. Lord, sustain us, and guide us. Let us remember, oh Lord, "that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of all wisdom" and knowledge. Let us persevere when the days are tough and let us listen well to those around us. Let us ponder deeply your world and your children, that we might live fully who you have created us to be. 

May we remember that school happens in moments when we are teachable, that all life is for learning, and that each family and child, is unique. May we not carry judgement into our classrooms or home school communities. May we lift burdens from others, and help to lighten their load in and through the participation of community. 

Above all Lord, may we make you Lord this year. You alone, are God. Forgive us when we make education, the arts, and the sciences our gods. Through these fields of study, may we see the beauty of your creation and handiwork. Help us, not to worship knowledge, but to worship you. For you alone, are the source of all knowledge, wisdom, and grace. 

Amen

Blessings to you this school year,

Kim

Water Birth

When you pass through the waters,  I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers,  they will not sweep over you. ~ Isaiah 43:2

The water beckons me come. The memory of the womb, lies deep within. The water soothes me, gently lapping at lovely memories. The water and womb, a place where my chatter and chaos meets calm.

There are barriers to be crossed for sure. But, barriers, when crossed, birth us.

The water lapping against the piers, is just now, gentle. But some days the waves rage and the land disappears. There is only the wave, but it shall not consume. Though the barrier of the bar must be crossed, hold onto that wave. Ride it out. Ride it high. Trust. He who made the wave, will take you and I to shore. A shore in which we might hold our head up, and discover a new and distant land.

Ride the wave. Ride it high. 

~ Kim

Savoring Summer

Summer is in full swing around here and I'm struggling to find time to write. We found ourselves in Astoria last weekend and it was regatta weekend. The festivities kept us busy, but we managed to get over to explore Cape Disappointment. It did not disappoint!

Discovering the WA side at Cape Disappointment.

Your observations are to be taken with great pains and accuracy, to be entered distinctly, and intelligibly for others as well as yourself. ~ Thomas Jefferson

 

 

Looking for the light.

Life is a talent entrusted to us so that we can transform it and increase it, making it a gift to others. No person is an iceberg drifting on the ocean of history. Each one of us belongs to a great family, in which we each have our own place and our own role to play. ~ John Paul the Great

Celebrating the...

oldest maritime city, west of the Rockies...

and those who serve. 

To Wit, To Woo

Personally Responsible

I was grumpy today.

The black crow should have caused me pause.

Acted like a minion.

Despicable me.

Extending grace one day.

Blowing through it another.

Responsibly Personable

Boys don't want bodies.

Boys want brains.

They'll take your body, if it's what you offer.

All fluffed up, short and sassy.

They notice.

Boys want brains.

But like us, they crave connection - at any cost.

Be careful what you brandish, girl with brawn.

Develop your brain.

(Observations from a local college campus :-)

I am not what I ought to be — ah, how imperfect and deficient! I am not what I wish to be — I abhor what is evil, and I would cleave to what is good! I am not what I hope to be — soon, soon shall I put off mortality, and with mortality all sin and imperfection. Yet, though I am not what I ought to be, nor what I wish to be, nor what I hope to be, I can truly say, I am not what I once was; a slave to sin and Satan; and I can heartily join with the apostle, and acknowledge, ‘By the grace of God I am what I am. ~ John Newton